I'm all for the empowerment of the strong woman, but does any one else notice as often as I do how often the rug of confidence is ripped out from under her feet? Perhaps it's just me, but many of these pitfalls happen when a guy flips the switch. He makes one decision he might not even pre-meditate -- with just about as much afterthought, turning a girl's
(maybe not even his girl's)
world upside down.
(maybe not even his girl's)
world upside down.
We've all been there before, where it feels like just when you think you've really got something, that it's really gonna happen, that you're finally gonna get your way and WAABAM negative, ghost-rider.
Sometimes though it's just the idea of something that could be...met a nice guy tonight, should I friend him on Facebook? Some thoughts to ponder..
will he think I'm creepy?
am I going to piss of his girlfriend?
do I have anything potentially socially scarring on my profile?
Do you think a guy has these thoughts before he adds us? No. And newsflash, he doesn't think twice about accepting our request either. I know I'm not the only one who has been the recipient of this friend approval and felt my heart skip a beat, then kept the chat window open while I peruse Facebook just to see if he comes online. ....This is starting to sound a little 7th grade for my taste.
Then it's the school-girl crush, although I'm not sure why they bear this nick name because I don't think there's any era of women who don't have them. You see him in the hallway and the butterflies take off. He asks you to hang out and you're all smiles. His friends say he mentioned you and you're looking at engagement rings. But I'm starting to realize ...
(at a pathetically slow rate, I know)
that guys' minds move about 234 mph slower than girls', and that sometimes ...
(while we'd love to think differently while we vent to the bottom of the Phish Food pint) ...
they really truly don't realize that they hold our hearts, our emotions, our happiness, in the palms of their hands.
So why do we do it? Why have women always been (correctly) typecast as creatures willing to be at the disposal of men, that will never fail to blame themselves when it doesn't work out? You know it's true, men too! I dare say the men who do have this figured out even take advantage to avoid any post-relationship drama.
Just to disclaim, I don't want you to take these "boys stink" posts to heart and cast me as some sort of raging feminist, because trust me, I took a class in feminism this past semester and I'm on the opposite end of that spectrum. But, I just wanted to delve into the depressing reality that has swarmed over me recently. The reality that sometimes the boys just need to grow up, sometimes the girls just need to move on, and if you want to ever have the chance to be content with your relationship status, you've got to have your own string.
will he think I'm creepy?
am I going to piss of his girlfriend?
do I have anything potentially socially scarring on my profile?
Do you think a guy has these thoughts before he adds us? No. And newsflash, he doesn't think twice about accepting our request either. I know I'm not the only one who has been the recipient of this friend approval and felt my heart skip a beat, then kept the chat window open while I peruse Facebook just to see if he comes online. ....This is starting to sound a little 7th grade for my taste.
Then it's the school-girl crush, although I'm not sure why they bear this nick name because I don't think there's any era of women who don't have them. You see him in the hallway and the butterflies take off. He asks you to hang out and you're all smiles. His friends say he mentioned you and you're looking at engagement rings. But I'm starting to realize ...
(at a pathetically slow rate, I know)
that guys' minds move about 234 mph slower than girls', and that sometimes ...
(while we'd love to think differently while we vent to the bottom of the Phish Food pint) ...
they really truly don't realize that they hold our hearts, our emotions, our happiness, in the palms of their hands.
So why do we do it? Why have women always been (correctly) typecast as creatures willing to be at the disposal of men, that will never fail to blame themselves when it doesn't work out? You know it's true, men too! I dare say the men who do have this figured out even take advantage to avoid any post-relationship drama.
Just to disclaim, I don't want you to take these "boys stink" posts to heart and cast me as some sort of raging feminist, because trust me, I took a class in feminism this past semester and I'm on the opposite end of that spectrum. But, I just wanted to delve into the depressing reality that has swarmed over me recently. The reality that sometimes the boys just need to grow up, sometimes the girls just need to move on, and if you want to ever have the chance to be content with your relationship status, you've got to have your own string.
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